MiddleWeb newsletter subscriber Susie Merrick, an educator and middle grades parent, offers these ideas aimed at strengthening the all-important bridge between professionals in the school and the parents, guardians and community members they ultimately serve. Susie’s article first appeared in the Burlington (VT) Free Press and is used with permission here. Students are heading back to school. It’s an exciting time of transitions and fresh starts. As families, we maneuver through the hallways of our communities’ schools as our children get to know their teachers and connect with peers.
In elementary school, the role for parents and guardians is usually well defined. Teachers open their doors, encouraging volunteerism, offering opportunities for daily communication with the classroom teacher.
As our children transition to middle and high school, however, our role as parents and guardians in the schools is not as clear. Often the doors to our children’s schools feel closed to us. We get mixed messages: Never has your role in your children’s lives been more important as well as You need to back off and give your children their independence.
I believe our most important role in our children’s lives is to empower them to launch to responsible and compassionate independence as adults. I further believe that partnership between home and school allows us to create a solid foundation from which our adolescents may launch.
According to the National Middle School Association (NMSA) and their “Characteristics of Exemplary Schools for Young Adolescents,” “Family and community play a central role in the successful education and development of young adolescents (Jackson & Davis, 2000; Muir, Anfara, Andrews, Caskey, Mertens, & Hough, 2006).” The NMSA goes on to cite the potential outcomes of this partnership: increased academic achievement, decreased high-risk behavior in adolescents.
The question for parents and guardians becomes: How do we support our students and staff within the walls of middle and high schools? How do we do all this and still honor our children’s growing independence, our school staff members, and our own limited time?
Ask Our Adolescents. Listening to our teens and pre-teens is a respectful place to start. They may have a sense of where volunteers are needed (field trips, library), and they will also have their own opinions about the role they want parents and guardians to play in their schools: visible or behind-the-scenes.
Ask the Schools Themselves. When we reach out to the principals, administrative teams, and staff members, we extend an invitation for partnership and allow them to see our genuine intent to support the schools.
Connect with the Parent-Teacher Organization. Most schools already have a PTO in place and a list of volunteer opportunities within the schools. These opportunities ideally reflect the diversity of families present in the school community. An opportunity exists here to (re)create and/or join a PTO that honors students, staff, and families.
Increase Communication. As parents and guardians we often wait to receive communication from the school, but we can play a significant role in opening the doors of communication to the school. When we communicate in a positive and authentic way to school staff, we begin to build a foundation of trust and respect between home and school.
Acknowledge the Risk. Parents and guardians are sometimes reluctant to contact the school with a concern because they worry that this may come at a cost to their family or to their child. If we acknowledge this roadblock for families, we may then address and change it.
I believe reaching out to our schools and to those within our school communities on a consistent basis is worth fitting into our busy lives. If and when we do, we build bridges between our schools, our homes, and our communities to more effectively honor our young people, support our school staffs, and give us all opportunities to learn from one another.
Susie Merrick lives in South Burlington and is the co-chair of PACT, Parents and Adults Celebrating Children and Teens. Posted at MiddleWeb in August 2010. Click here for more articles about schools, parents and communities.
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